Friday, September 14, 2018


Every day and every night before I dive into the underworld of sleep, I find myself completing inconsequential tasks. I’m unloading the dishwasher, folding laundry and chauffeuring it off to its designated drawers or closets.

 I’m picking up toys, and gadgets…and books. I’m wiping off cupboards and counters; and all of this is being done after 10:30pm—when the children have finally gone to bed.
 Instead of employing my intellect and reading about fascinating topics or writing down my thoughts, my time is displaced by constant, undervalued, invisible clean-up. This is labor that imparts not intellectual or academic value to my mind. There is almost no part of this that can be accessed and marketed at a future time. This is time not simply wasted—but time spent on wear and tear on the human body.

Almost all my daily hours are displaced and taken over by physical labor. I am now fully convinced that this is the reason women throughout the ages have made very few strides in science, engineering and invention (compared to men).  It is women who have been mothers throughout millennia. And, being a mother means all of those moments that you could have used to research a particular topic, invent something or become a prominent scientist, were used—were displaced—by childcare and housework duties.

 If you give women more time, you’ll find that they could manifest incredible results—because their drive for success, education and influence is so strong. Women are naturally ambitious perfectionists and tend to be quite conscientious. They are extremely hard working. Many are growing up to value their time and their acquisition of knowledge. So many women want to act upon…within this world and make a difference and many realize that the time to do this is short.

I keep hearing the phrase, “The Future is Female” and I am frightful that this will likely be the case. As a group, we as women are pushing forward at astounding speeds. Our ambition and courage is nearing its peak.

Around the globe, women are multi-tasking everywhereto untold degrees of madness. Were taking care of children while cleaning our houses, juggling education and careers, pursuing creative business ventures and dabbling with side hobbies to enrich our minds that give us even more skills.

I am not one of these women. I’m currently a full-time, stay-at-home Mom. I’ve become very aware of what’s happening on a social scale because I’ve found myself to be in the minority. I’ve been given a distinct vantage point of what is going on in the general female population around the globe. People always seem to be jarred with shock when I mention that I’m a stay-at-home mom without a side business, career and not taking any online college courses. Compared to most other women, I feel like a slacker.

And, this is where my lamentations come in for the phrase, “The Future is Female”. Women are the new men. The new group in society who must bear the brunt of the hardship, family loyalty as well as work both outside and inside the home—while the men are all off accomplishing the vast amount of the leisure and entertainment and downtime.

 Jordan Peterson has said, “There is going to be a time when women will have to work because men won’t.” I have arrived at a recent theory myself. My predictions about society are derived from all the observations I’ve been accumulating over the past decade as I watch the interactions and associations between the male and female gender in various societies—in cities literally all over the world.

Certainly, the data reveals that among the younger cohort in society, women are taking the lead in terms of college education, degrees, entrepreneurial ventures and careers that make a decent living. Even in mediocre or menial minimum wage jobs it appears that younger women are equaling or even outnumbering younger men.

But I think that when women are the primary breadwinners in society, this spells doom for the long-term health and welfare of society…of civilization itself. It’s particularly damning for women who prefer marriage and long-term, tightly committed, monogamous heterosexual relationships.

Currently, women are taught to think that they are like Atlas—that they can be all things. But we are not. At some point things are going to give; Atlas’ arms are going to weaken and break off.

Women cannot continually be assigned every single job in society while their counterparts—males within their age cohort—sit back and spend their most valuable, youthful years playing video games, watching videos, eating fast food and living off the estate (i.e. their parents or grandparents).

Women are doled out almost every conceivable task in modern society and take it on fully—from careers to raising children, to running entire households to cooking, cleaning, hobbies and extra side ventures. On top of all this, very many are taking night classes to improve their educational outlook. Women everywhere seem to be juggling it all.

However, there is one thing that the vast majority of women want more than anything.  In the end, even more than a successful career, women really do want a man. They want a committed partner…a marriageable mate…a long-term, monogamous relationship with a man. Yet, by the time women are ready for that kind of a relationship—they’ve achieved the education and career that they’ve so diligently sought after, they discover that it’s too late. This is because the men within their sphere of influence and the men they find desirable—even the men they find with the minimum level of decency for their standards—have already either married and partnered off. The few single men available are inmates, only interested in short-term flings or have gone down the irrevocable path of bachelorhood.

These days, things are very difficult for women who will have an 80+ year life span. But, unlike what you hear shouted from all corners of Western society and in every social media post, it’s not because women are being oppressed or denied opportunities or unable to participate in politics.
 Just ask your typical woman in society why she has so much anxiety, why she is so depressed…why she is so unhappy and she will inevitably respond with something about her current relationship—something to do with a man (or lack thereof).

No matter what anyone would like to tell you or what people would like to hear, clearly heterosexual women are very wrapped up, entangled and affected by the men around them and the relationships they do (or do not) have with them.
But women have, unbeknownst to them, contributed to the problems they are now facing in society.

I think that the mating pattern and the entire unfolding of (Western) society has been going in a deleterious, almost dysgenic direction. It’s hard to pin-point when, exactly, when this transgression began. Perhaps women have become desperate and are lowering their standards—willing to mate with men in hopes of future commitment. 
As a result, women in Western society have been gradually intermixing their genes with unfit men. (This is not to suggest that women in society are necessarily “better” than the men within their cohort).  It’s just that for mating purposes, it is the female species who must be the choosy one. For it is the female who chooses whom she will mate with---if anyone at all.

Thus, it is absolutely necessary for women to find the fittest mate for the welfare of her future offspring and the welfare of future society. And, by "fittest" here, we mean a mate who has attributes that would foment the survival of her children—a mate who has strong protector and provider qualities; a monogamous mate whom she can count on for provision in both times of hardship and health. A polygamous man will have many offspring and not be able to devote the amount of resources, time and care to her children that a monogamous man could.

How else can a female raise her offspring without such a (monogamous) partnership? Society may currently pretend like this is feasible. But it is only feasible with the help of the ultimate sugar daddy, The State—and all its financial goodies. While a single mother can still work and have her career, she will undoubtedly be assisted by the State with the survival of her children. She will get numerous entitlements like housing, food, cash, healthcare, and even daycare…even reduced student lunches if her children attend public schools.

If (and when) the father has abandoned her, she will have The State to look after her children—and, by necessary extension, herself. She won’t have to give up her educational pursuits or her career either—the things that modern women desire more than anything else. The State, in essence, will allow her to have her cake and eat it too. Of course, this is in exchange for her vote—her allegiance to the State. The State gains more and more power by this set-up while the individuals in society lose their liberty.

But I believe that teaching women to depend on the State instead of on another person/partner will have harmful consequences for the future of society. This is what is happening here. The State, in effect, teaches women that they need not be extremely picky with whom they mate with, because they know that they have a back-up, (The powerful State, of course). They know that with the help of The State they will indeed be able to juggle single Motherhood, their career and even their education.

For the long-term welfare of society—even the survival of human society, itself, women must be taught to be extremely choosy in the mate selection process. Promulgating genes from men who are mentally unstable, uncommitted, dull, or who live out their lives in apathy and stupor is to promote dysgenics in society.

Remember, society in aggregate will end up being a reflection of the genes that it has to work with—the genes that are being expressed.

If society should have any “goals” at all, dysgenics should probably not be one of them.

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

My Dad Sent a Sin/Salvation article... my thoughts

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Now onto more serious concerns...
It was a few weeks ago that my Dad sent me this link in my email entitled, Differences between Salvation in the Qur'an and the Bible.
Not sure if he thought I was delving into Islam (why would I have any interest)? Or, if he thought it had some theological punches about sin and salvation that showed Christianity's superiority to other religious viewpoints. Either way I skimmed the article and these were the tangential thoughts that came in the middle of the night...when I was nursing my baby...when I could literally speak the words into my blog and not have to type a word. These are the rare occasions where I can concentrate on "deeper" topics.
A big issue with Christianity is it's focus on humans beings as sinful, evil, and not good enough. This is a similar behavior in some relationships.
It's like the awful boyfriend who tells his girlfriend, "You are nothing without me, be thankful to be with me because I love you despite your faults--what you lack--your "good actions" and "good qualities" are essentially worthless to me but I will take care of you anyway. 
You are lucky to be with me and remember, it's "through me" that you gain your worth and value anyways. Actually, without me nobody will want you and you will be ALONE/SINGLE FOREVER!."

 Just make a few substitutions here and you have the God of the Bible, telling you that without him, you will burn (alone) forever.Do you recognize this? Many young women today have boyfriends who treat them with this exact pattern of behavior- but the irony is that the God of the Bible appears to act (and think) in the exact same way.
This is not a healthy or productive behavior but it appears to be a common theme of manipulative, sociopathic individuals throughout the course of our history. When you see the above pattern of behavior displayed by any supposed deity or person, take pause, it's probably coming from the mind of a psychopath and usually a male (females have much lower rates of psycopathy throughout the course of human history).
The behavior described above reminds me of how masters treat their slaves or how captives treat their victims. It's called "Stockholm syndrome."
Now back to "sin". It's certainly reasonable to think that humans are imperfect. But we do not need a devil or deity or an afterlife to tell us this. I don't think anyone has ever suggested that they were perfect.
We are goverrned by both virtues and vices and we have a limited and fallible brain. We often do behave in ways that indulge the less virtuous side of our nature. We take short cuts at the expense of future well-being. In many cases we take the self absorbent path and do not defer gratification so we act out in what are called "sins" such as rage, lust, violence, impoliteness, dishonesty, debt, selfishness, overeating (because it feels better in the moment).
I tend to see "sin" not as some offense to a mystical being (that we have no physical way of testing the existence of and thus proving it's existence)-- but rather as David Brooks eloquently states in his secular book, "The Road to Character". This is the most reasonable look at what can be considered "sin" that I've ever encountered yet.
Regarding sin he States the following:
"Sin is a necessary piece of our mental furniture because it reminds us that life is a moral affair. No matter how hard we try to reduce everything to deterministic brain chemistry, no matter how hard we try to reduce behavior to the set of herd instinct that is captured in big data, no matter how hard we strive to replace sin with nonmoral words like "mistake" or "error" or "weakness, the most essential parts of life are matters of individual responsibility ad moral choice: whether to be brave or cowardly, honest or deceitful, compassionate or callous, faithful or disloyal."
and here:
"We really do have dappled souls. The same ambition that drives us to build a new company also drives us to be materialistic and to exploit. The same lust that lead to children, leads to adultery. The same confidence that can lead to daring and creativity can lead to self worship and arrogance."
 and here:
"Sin is not some demonic thing. It's just our perverse tendency to fuck things up, to favor the short term over the long term, the lower over the higher. Sin, when it is committed over and over again hardens to loyalty to a lower love. The danger with sin, in other words, is that it feeds on itself. Small moral compromises on Monday make you more likely to commit even bigger moral compromises on Tuesday. A person lies to himself and can no longer distinguish when he is lying to himself and when he isn't."
and here:
"A person is consumed by the sin of self-pity, a passion to be righteous victim that devours everything around it as surely as anger and greed. People rarely commit big sins out of the blue. They walk through a series of doors. They have an unchecked problem with anger. They have an unchecked problem with drinking or drugs.
"The final reason sin is a necessary part of our mental furniture is that without it, the whole method of character building dissolves. From time immemorial, people have achieved glory by achieving great external things, but they have built character by struggling against their internal sins. People become solid, stable and worthy of self-respect because they have defeated or at least struggled with their demons. If you take away the concept of sin, you take away the thing that the good person struggles against."
and here...
"Our days are filled with moral occasions."
 Many Christians will jump in at this point once hearing these quotes and emphasize that "sin" is ultimately our nature that "goes against God". Thus, according to the Christian, sin is more a corruption of our own nature that goes against "God himself"-- it isn't simply a list of our misdeeds and misbehaviors. Rather, these misdeeds and misbehaviors reflect our being's fallen state with relation to the divine, perfect being--God.
Now, I want you to recognize that the Christian understanding of sin goes against the common, everyday understanding of "sin" held by the average person who isn't concerned with theology or philosophy.
People think of "their sin" in relationship to others-- to other HUMANS WHO PHYSICALLY EXIST. How did I betray my friend? Did I act selfishly to my husband the other day? Did I treat the checker at the grocery store rudely? Could I have driven less aggressively? Should I have given that homeless man some cash? Am I coming across as arrogant? Should I have spent less time on the internet and more time playing with my children? Should I have been more generous with my time...compliments...or knowledge to others?
And this is what makes sense, what is the most salient for us to understand. We only need to live in a society-- among OTHER PEOPLE to come to the realization that our behavior is going to have an effect on not just ourselves, but others. There are clearly certain behaviors that are going to help society and others that are less helpful, or even hurtful.
The Christian View of Sin and humans:
The Christian view of sin is that you as a human are so wretched and lowly that the only worth you have is in Christ/God. In fact, anything good you do isn't even valued or taken into the equation. Its worthless---you're worthless.
This is not a healthy mindset for any human to have. It is not a recipe for personal responsibility-- but rather a recipe for thinking that your life is shuffled by the hands of a force outside yourself-- until problems and mistakes arise and guess who gets the blame!? You do!
In other words, you get the full blame for the misdeeds and "sins" you commit, but you do not get to take any of the responsibility or pride for the good that you do-- because remember, it's not your works that get you into heaven (as lambasted incessantly by Christian Protestants).

It doesn't matter if the concepts of sin and/or salvation are different between Christianity and Islam. We still need to examine the theology/philosophy behind these religious doctrines and see if they work...if they actually make sense in the world we interact with.

Thursday, July 26, 2018

To my Fundamentalist Parents

I wish you could understand me. I wish we could connect and really relate. After all, the word "relationship" has the very word "relate" in it.

But the truth is, this will never happen the way I would like. I do understand you...but you will never understand me.

Your religion....your religious delusions about so many things will hinder you from truly understanding me. After all, these delusions of yours are used to define me-- to determine who I am, and, more specifically, why I am the way I am.

You allow a largely fallacious set of views to characterize me-- even before asking me about anything.

When you allow an ancient book (and your preferred interpretations of it) the ability to determine everything around you-- why everything is the way it is and why people behave the way they do, you are bound to get a very distorted view of the world and the people in it.

The Christian religion isn't very different from other religions in as much as it has built upon assumptions about a number of things. One of thoes things is the "Inerancy of Scripture". There is this assumption that the Bible is free of errors and that it is divinely written and inspired and so it is the source that a Christian goes to in order to determine all things. If the Bible says something about science, then, it is that account that is taken as authoritative and true, even if it happens to go against a natural/scientific account.

The Bible does not say anything specific about the natural world but it does seem to say plenty of specific things about the "spiritual realm"--claims that conveniently can't be tested or falsified in the first place--because, after all, these are things that are not part of this world. They are beyond this world. How nicely convenient to be able to escape the necessity of providing rational thought and arguments for such beliefs.

I love you but I often feel sad about our relationship. I see so many other parent-child relationships where the parents are just happy to be with their children and share a relationship with them--not incessantly longing for their children to be converts to their particular ideology. Not constantly worried that their children will end up in hell. I know these thoughts are on your minds at all times. People that you know have conducted themselves in this life FAR WORSE than the average person but are guaranteed a spot in heaven, simply because they expressed faith--while I, your disbelieving daughter, will likely go to hell.

When I asked you the other night if the Jews would be in the same place as their killer, Hitler--in Hell, right? You made reservations for them. You didn't seem to let this make you feel uneasy about the theology you uphold. You were able to suggest that "Well we don't know everything about God and his plan. We know so little.". You can use that same logic for me then. You can rest assured that I won't be going to hell no matter what I think or believe.

 Loreen thinks the same way. We met for coffee a few days ago and during a pause in our conversation she said, "Renee, I'd like to get serious with you. You probably know where I'm going with this already....but I'm concerned about you. I'm concerned about your kids. I think about you a lot and how you've lost your faith...I think about how it must hurt your family...your parents! Your parents must be so worried for you. You know there is a heaven and a hell and there's a God."

Hearing her admonishment didn't bother me for one second. I didn't feel uneasy or "spiritually bullied" because I've heard it before and I really do understand how Christians think (because I once thought the exact same way!). Because of this, I can have empathy for Christians and their response to me. They mean well but it does get tiresome to deal with people inside a box--who have no capacity to see beyond it. Now that I've stepped out, I can see beyond the box...I can still though, understand exactly how they think.

Saturday, June 3, 2017

Satire: Creative Ways to Increase Global Warming

Creative and Fun ways to increase your Carbon Footprint BY Me:

There are lots of people in the world who clearly care about the environment based on how they vote and who they would like to tax on the planet. But what if you aren’t one of those people? What if you actually hate the globe and don’t care about the climate?
 Voting is one thing…but what about actually taking action…doing something about your "proposed cause"? Anyone can pat themselves on the back and say they voted “pro environment” or “anti environment”—but what actions are you taking in your day-to-day life to prove that you actually care, one way or another?   
As climate scientists make us think, it’s the little things that add up. “It’s just a fraction of a degree that is needed to increase global temperatures and change the delicate balance in nature”—so what small things are you doing, on a daily basis, to help increase global warming? After all, you hate the environment right?

Tips To Increase Your Carbon Footprint

1.    Eat mostly packaged/boxed and processed food items instead of fruits and vegetables with biodegradable peelings. You want to have a lot of non-biodegradable plastic trash to be throwing out in your garbage can or recycle bin.

2.   Never walk anywhere or use public transportation, insist on driving or getting a cab, even if only 6 blocks down the road.

3.  While drinking a Big Gulp, drive around your local Walmart looking for the parking space that is close to the entrance. Don’t give up. If you have to circle the lot a few dozen times or idle your car for 10 minutes as you wait for someone to leave, give yourself a pat on the back. You don’t want to be one of those people who finds the first parking space in the back of the lot and immediately turns off your car engine. You’ll be forced to walk a few extra feet

4.    Refuse to carpool

5.  Go to a fast-food restaurant at least once a week—smile to yourself as you throw all of the plastic trash and wrappings into the rubbish bin. Give yourself bonus points if your meal had meat in it.

6.  Order delivery at least once a month. Smile as you consider how much gas is being used to ferry your little plastic take-out-bag and Styrofoam container from the restaurant to your house and then back again. Throw away half of the food you ordered because “You were full” and too lazy to put it back in the fridge.

7.  Never eat left-overs from your fridge or anything that you have “on hand, in your house”. Why do this when you can simply order something and have someone else use a bunch of gas and plastic/garbage package to get it to you?

8.   Don’t grow any plants or vegetables. Don’t eat plants. Eat lots of meat because animals create more carbon emissions that plants do.

9.   When grocery shopping do not bring your own bags. Use plastic bags from the store which you will throw away and “recycle” when done.

10.  Constantly buy new things: new clothing, new devices, new toys for the kids: avoid shopping at any “used clothing store” or “thrift store”. You only want things that have been newly created in China or other far-off regions and then recently shipped to America.

11.   Set your air conditioning down to 58 degrees F.

12. Go through fast food drive-thrus weekly.  These offer an added bang for your buck. You’ll be emitting lots of carbon from burning your gasoline while you wait for your food to be given to you in lots of throw-away packaging.  Smile to yourself as you see how many people are waiting in the long fast-food drive through lane, doing the same thing as you are. Together you’re making a difference!!

13. Don’t have "pride of ownership" in your house or property and don't take care of your possessions. The sooner you trash them and/or break them, the sooner you can buy new ones. Reassure yourself that “they were cheap anyways, so why bother taking care of them?” Tell yourself, "I'm just a renter so why should I take care of someone else's property?" The more things and places you trash, the more time you can spend driving around looking for new things and places and consuming more things.

14.   Keep your house so messy that you always lose your things and have to “buy new ones”. Remember, that’s more trips to and from the store in your car!