Tuesday, May 13, 2014

MEN have the UPPER HAND in FINDING a DATE/RELATIONSHIP?? (long-term, that is)

Is DATING and eventually finding a LONG-TERM PARTNER a NUMBERS GAME? Is the competitive advantage in the gender where the demand is greater than the supply? I know there are a LOT more factors to consider here but I thought this was kind of interesting. 

Note: This video addresses the dynamics of heterosexual relationships only.


Quotes below taken from the most recent article above

"Put simply, for today’s never-married women, a “good” man is harder to find."
"Among never-married adults aged 25 to 34, the number of employed, available men per 100 women has dropped to 91 in 2012, from 139 in 1960."

Other Links:

Below is a very recent article/video link about how women in a certain age group are outpacing men in the area of monetary earnings. 


  1. Ironically, now that you've removed yourself from the dating scene in Seattle, it appears that women are the ones who are spoiled for choice:


  2. Perhaps that's always been true for men (earning enough to support a family) but how many men actually do want to start a family and at what point in their (string of) relationships do they (grow up? and) make that decision?

    I don't think we fully appreciate all the factors that influence promiscuity in men: evolutionary biology; developmental factors in infancy along with personality; the availability of contraceptives; relaxed attitudes about (pre-marital) sex; the notion that identity is a product of how we exercise (consumer) choice; easily accessible porn; and social pluralism. Men are often accused of commitment phobia but couldn't the same be said of political, corporate and other leaders? Hasn't how we view those unconditionally committed or loyal to a person, a belief, or a cause completely flipped over the past century from the utmost respect to the utmost contempt and distrust?

    In a TED Talk entitled SEXUAL OMNIVORES, Christopher Ryan questions whether monogamous relationships are even our natural inheritance.

    What I'm curious about are the factors influencing female promiscuity from a conscious, but more importantly from a social, evolutionary and psychological perspective. Girls may just want to have fun rather than family, but how do female needs and their fulfillment differ from males in such affairs? What's in it for a woman to agree to sex with a man whom she knows will not commit to her? My guess is there may be an equally complex set of factors influencing such behavior. I'm sure there's been a lot written about this, I just haven't read it yet.


    1. Wow, lots of excellent, thought-provoking suggestions/ideas here. I have too much to think about now. I'm not even sure how to respond.

    2. I definitely have to check out that TED talks when I'm out from nursing school this summer (or if I have some time before finals). thank you for sharing