When someone stubs their toe or twists their ankle, no one
responds to the individual’s ensuing expression of pain with, “Just be strong,
you can endure it!” We quickly recognize that such experience is truly painful
and the person’s physiological and emotional response to the painful experience
is involuntary and expected.
I do notice,
however, that when an individual
experiences some particular instance of social trauma, perhaps being excluded
from a group or rejected by a loved one, many times they are quickly reminded
to “Be strong” and “Don’t react” or “Don’t get too emotional” or “Don’t let
other people affect your feelings so much.”
In the book “Subliminal, How Your Unconscious Mind Rules
Your Behavior” author Leonard Mlodinow mentions, “It is fascinating that the
pain of a stubbed toe and the sting of a snubbed advance share a space in your
brain.”
Our brain really does seem to go through a similar process
when we experience psychological pain as when we experience physical pain. Many
times though, we are chided for expressions of emotion when it relates to
psychological pain when such reactions are equally involuntary as emotions
resulting from physical pain.
I am going through intense bursts of psychological pain
right now. The pain can get so bad. Feeling rejected by a loved one and losing my cat Nephe—and so
suddenly—can be absolutely devastating. Words become futile as I attempt to
describe what I’m feeling—what I’ve gone through the past couple of weeks. I am
under no delusion that others haven’t gone through similar…or worse.
In my efforts to find a solution to my pain, I’ve often
thought, “They have pills to quash the pangs of physical distress, why not for
acute, psychological triggers?” As it
turns out, Tylenol actually deadens psychological pain. A study is mentioned in
the book referenced above that seems to suggest Tylenol’s ability to reduce
pain among individuals who have been socially excluded. Hmm, I’ll have to try
it. (read the book for further details, its one of the best one's I've skimmed in a while)
P.S. Please don’t suggest alcohol. I almost never drink.
P.S. Please don’t suggest alcohol. I almost never drink.