A recent study (above) suggests that it is WORSE to be
bullied and/or EXCLUDED by peers than to be abused by adults. Obviously, this
shouldn't abate our natural outrage for children abused by adults or make it sound less severe. I just find
it interesting that studies are finally showing something that I have parroted
for years!
As someone who never,
ever made entrance into any single popular group in highschool (or even an
upopular one)—and tried really hard to do so—as someone who never even made it
into the auspices of 2-3 close friends during that time, I can definitely
identify! As someone who was bullied from time to time during highschool, I can certainly agree with this--especially as I consider my own current levels of anxiety.
See my blog post below where I go into more detail about why
I think bullying and social exclusion are so harmful. (Yes, I know this is nothing original, but at least I made sure to mention the factor of social rejection/exclusion here--sometimes people forget this aspect of bullying).
My "Social Exclusion/Bullying" blog post.
My "Social Exclusion/Bullying" blog post.
I'm inclined to think otherwise. I think kids today, and for a while have been pampered way too much and a generation of narcissist who can't cope with negative experiences or learn from them are becoming the majority of the population each year.
ReplyDeletehttp://edition.cnn.com/2015/03/09/living/feat-narcissistic-kids-parents-study/
Of course, this article (I mention) is addressing the incidence of adult anxiety and depression in thoes who have been bullied or excluded by peers compared to thoes who have been sexually or physically abused by adults (usually parents).
DeleteHmm, I think that is totally true! Especially for children growing up in this "me generation" of social media. I'm not sure about previous decades as might be part of the study. Thankyou for the link! I think it is fascinating that children whose parents made them feel so important had both higher self esteem and also tended to be more narcissistic!
ReplyDeleteThis makes sense when you take into account the amount of time we have spent at school during childhood. Chances are much higher to be bullied at school than other forms of abuse outside of school.
ReplyDeleteThanks John! That is a very, very good point! I know I spent a lot more time around peers at both school and other events during the week... Going to my brothers' baseball games etc and being around both of my brothers friends all the time.
DeleteYeah, in my case, I went to school and came home. No extra activities for the most part. Hell, I did not bother with prom. To me, prom meant renting a suit to go to the school on Saturday and be around the same people I tried to avoid during the week. Did not see how I would enjoy that.
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