In recent times I heard a lot of hypothesizing as to why
marriage is on the decline. I have heard
several prominent individuals express their thoughts as to why this is
happening. Sometimes an individual in
popular culture—on the news or even on YouTube—responds to a commentator and
expresses their own reasons why this is happening.
Often, I will hear in the response to a commentator’s
opinion “So and So DOES NOT speak for me.” Next, they proceed to speak about
the situation expressing their own point of view. Might I
suggest that this individual doesn’t speak for everyone (or anyone) else
Every time I hear someone say something akin to “This person should
stop speaking for me or on my behalf” I also want to chime in—Good point, but NEITHER DO YOU. THAT person
has just as much right to express their opinion as you do. Also, since there is
no single absolute way to determine the reason (or reasons) why marriage is on
the decline, WE ARE ALL FREE TO SPECULATE.
We all express our opinions on the internet and we should
realize that we are not the official representative for any particular group or
idea (whether women, men, feminist, antifeminist, black, white—these are just
examples). I say these things as a disclaimer
before I proceed to discuss my own
opinions in this post.
Marriage is NOT
the decline because people don’t have/make enough money. Sure, a wedding costs
money. I’m not denying this. My wedding cost $4000-$5000—an expensive ceremony,
indeed. I will freely admit that this
was absolutely unnecessary
. In our
case, we were both ecstatic to invest this much on a day that symbolized our
life-time commitment to each other. This
being said, I would have also been fine with a simple court-house wedding. Court house weddings cost less than $100. When
you consider how cheap a courthouse wedding is and then you consider that in
most cases a marriage is between two individuals who are working and can now
SHARE THEIR EXPENSES, marriage seems like the most financially prudent way to
Unless an individual is already living with their parents, a roommate,
or luckily receiving welfare from the government or donations from other
people, living on your own and NOT
having anyone to share expenses with is what is actually financially
debilitating. In a marriage relationship both parties work hard towards
securing a better future for themselves, as if they were a solid unit.
It could be argued that this doesn’t take into account the
possibility that two very different personalities could be involved in this
(marriage) union. One person could be a spender and the other person could be a
saver. Or, both individuals could be spenders.
The spender could create deep, lasting financial havoc in this
relationship resulting in debt, a falling credit score, and worsened financial
prospects for both parties.
While some of the above scenarios are possible, my opinion
is that there are plenty of financially responsible individuals in society who
could find love and a marriage relationship together. Why isn’t this happening
though? There must be several things interfering with this age-old pursuit of
marriage (or, even long-term cohabitation with a single person).
I take a very pragmatic stance on marriage. I think marriage
is a good thing primarily because of its influence on reducing poverty in
My list of reasons why Marriage is declining:
and more people in society simply do not want to get married. The reason why people are not interested
in marriage is due to selfishness. People prefer to just focus on
themselves than have to deal with the interests of another person. If
people do want to get married they are looking for the “perfect” person
instead of being willing to sacrifice a little and be with someone who may
not be as financially fit or as attractive as they would prefer.
internet has made it so that 3-dimensional people are unnecessary. You
have so many options on the internet now. You can use these people as your
source of pleasure, entertainment…the list goes on. These internet
people end up replacing 3-dimensional human beings that you could
form a bonded relationship with. Time that is spent on one activity is
time taken away from another activity—in this case, pursuing a physical,
3-D (non-pixelated) partner.
an in-person, 3-dimensional relationship is difficult and time consuming.
To get one, this means you have to leave your phone or your computer
screen for at minimum 30 minutes a day to initiate physical contact with
the other sex (or same sex, depending on your biology).
To Be Continued as I have more time. There are plenty of links, statistics etc that I have found that prove that it is more financially beneficial to be married than to be single or be a single parent.